So pejolin tagged me in one of those questionnaire things, and I’m supposed to upload the answers in a photo, but I don’t have a camera, so here’s my boring text version. (By the way, hi, pejolin! I feel like we’re in each others’ top followers but we’ve never talked personally, so hey there! I appreciate you!)
Name: Yeah, I don’t give it out online. You can just call me by my username or abbreviate it to wbd if that’s easier.
Blog Title: Across the Map (because I’m interested in like, everything)
Crush: No romantic crushes. I do have some tumblr crushes, meaning I wanna be like those people (teaandfeminism, mammapolitico, america-wakiewakie, brutereason, bitterandcurt, nayyirahwaheed, internal-acceptance-movement)
Favorite color: blue
Favorite band: OneRepublic, Jars of Clay, Foster the People, Florence + The Machine, Snow Patrol, The Beatles
Tag 10 people (you guys don’t have to do this - only if you want!):
"Curing AIDS? Shit, that’s like Cadillac making a car that lasts for 50 years. And you know they can do it, but they ain’t going to do nothing that fucking dumb. Shit, they got metal on the Space Shuttle that can go around the Moon and withstand temperatures of up to 20,000 degrees, you mean to tell me you don’t think they can make an El Dorado with a fuckin’ bumper that don’t fall off?"
- Chris Rock (“Bigger and Blacker”, 1999)
It suddenly dawned on me that Grandma is well-to-do, Mom is poor, and I am even poorer. So to Grandma, “picky” means “spends too long comparing prices.” Wealthy privilege in a nutshell.
Yeah, Grandma, we really love spending hours in grocery stores trying to get the most nutrition for a tiny amount of money.
You know what I like, and feel is so important? That he doesn’t say “Men think those are THEIR positions”. He says “We think those are OUR positions.”
As a male feminist, he still doesn’t exclude himself from the group of men.
Part 2 — #27BiStories: When Did You Come Out? What Was The Response Like?
Hoping to shine a light on the myths about the bisexual community — both in and out of lesbian, gay, transgender, and queer spaces — The Advocate has launched a four-part series written from interviews with 27 self-identified bisexuals, all of whom happen to be in relationships. Earlier this week, we asked our sources to confont the biggest misconceptions they face as bisexual people, and today, we’re turning our attention to the “coming out” stories that so often unite members of the LGBT community.
Do those stories provide the same kind of “we’ve all been there” unity that many in the lesbian, gay, and transgender communities experience when sharing their own coming-outs? Or do bisexual people face ridicule and disbelief from the very people who claim to want to liberate others from the closet? Read on to find out.
This is #27BiStories.
Yes, yes, yes, and yes.
At least I knew to expect homophobia when I was in same-sex relationships, I was not prepared at all for the biphobia I’d experience later. Personally, I’ve found the dismissal, accusations, and vitriol I get from the queer side regarding my sexuality to be far, far more hurtful than the harassment and garbage thrown at me I’d get from straight men on the street when I’d walk hand-in-hand with my girlfriend.
You expect it from bigoted strangers, you don’t see it coming from your supposed “community”
Reason #536 that I’m not vocal about my sexuality.
if you want to understand the psyche of our generation take a good look at the stories we tell ourselves about the future
because it isn’t flying cars or robot dogs, it’s faceless government surveillance and worldwide pandemics and militarized police brutality and the last dregs of humanity struggling to survive
our generation isn’t self-centered, or lazy, or whatever else they wanna say about us. we are young, and we are here, and we are deeply, deeply afraid.
This is in fact an absurd example. One can assume safely that the pool-goers not protesting are not near the runners in question and that the lifeguard’s attention is focused when the whistle is blown and the command uttered.
The accusation against men who say “not me” are responding to blanket statements of “men are jerks because they do ‘x’ ” which seems to include all men in its circumference of guilt. What should be said is “men who do ‘x’ are jerks,” which narrows the circle down to a narrow spotlight on those who perform the guilty action (running by the pool in this case).
If you’re tired of dealing with “not me” statements, consider the language you’re using— it may have more to do with the reasons why there are protests than you think.
Oh look, a guy with a porn blog is here to mansplain us silly ladies about how “not all men.” Thanks for the tone-policing, broseph.
Okay so I grew up in a tourist town and the town’s economy heavily depends upon tourism, okay? And I’ve worked jobs in that town (because duh it’s my hometown) that required me to deal with said tourists.
Tourists don’t read signs. Tourists maybe do read signs, but somehow think they don’t apply to them. Like the guy who came in the exit “because the entrance was closed” THAT IS BECAUSE WE ARE NOT OPEN YET (hours clearly posted, it was 6:30 AM, omfg). Tourists are legend for asking questions like “at what altitude do deer turn into elk?” and “where are the mountains?” and so forth (hi it’s a small mountain town). Also, they don’t know how to drive. They don’t follow speed limits because they’re too busy ogling the mountains or doing whatever.
I’ve had tourists walk out into the middle of the street in front of me, while I’m driving a car, without looking, to take pictures.
Fucking tourists, man. They’re a fucking nightmare.
OH BUT WAIT IT’S NOT ALL TOURISTS. I am just venting and telling stories about the worst and most inconsiderate ones! I mean the good tourists, I don’t even really notice because they are fine and behave like reasonable people! But anyone from a tourist town knows EXACTLY what I am talking about when I start to complain about tourists.
It’s the same damn thing. If you’re not one of THOSE tourists, then you’re not who we’re complaining about. Although let’s be real anyone who’s been a tourist has probably done something foolish because you’re unfamiliar with the territory, and wow this analogy is really apt because the same thing goes for men too! It’s like when you’re unaware of something, say, patriarchal privilege or local customs, you are probably going to make mistakes sometimes that annoy, say, underprivileged people or locals!
When in Rome, do as the Romans do. Learn where your privilege-unawareness is and become aware.
"How Do Africans Kiss?" by Zino Saro-Wiwa.
Whether an instinctive display of affection or a learned lust-filled mannerism, one thing is for sure: kissing, as we know it, is taboo in many African cultures.
In this Q&A format-style documentary by British-Nigerian filmmaker Zino Saro-Wiwa, what may seem like a slightly absurd question is posed to an array of individuals from around the continent (but presumably based in the diaspora) with some interesting perspectives on the cultural influences of love and its physical manifestations.
All Africa, All the time.